A profoundly disappointing experience with practitioner Rubens Abreu (x5) sessions resulting in deeply destabilising outcomes. I entered working with this practitioner in good faith as a disability and vulnerability client seeking standard level trauma-informed emotionally responsible care. I was aware this practitioner is not formally trained in trauma care and we agreed that trauma support would be with a trauma trained professional. It was human care that I needed and he assured me his overall approach would be very personalised, responsive and centered on my needs. When I raised concerns about emotional safety, mutual boundaries and the impact of his behaviour and expectations that compromised my own growth and progress what followed was not adaptation or repair — it was withdrawal, defensiveness, and ultimately termination of the professional relationship by text message.This is a practitioner who claims to provide empowerment to women with histories of power and control issues including survivors of sexual trauma. The inability to apply feedback, make changes, remain caring and steady under stress, frustration or inconvenience is not a minor issue. It is a fundamental incompetence. Eventually my emails were read after much persistence from myself and there was no meaningful acknowledgment of impact. Instead, a total lack of constructive solutions except for ending contact and my finding support elsewhere. No apology. No sustained effort to resolve the rupture. Communication was shut down rather than worked through. Follow-up communication seeking clarification and responsible handling of care going forward went unanswered. The experience was cruel, hurtful and disrespectful and left me feeling disempowered rather than supported or empowered. This practitioner may present well in short-term or uncomplicated contexts. Intimacy and depth work require emotional maturity, relational awareness and responsibility and the capacity for course correction. In my experience, those capacities were not demonstrated when it mattered most.I have already provided extensive feedback directly and I will not debate this publicly. Mr Rubens Abreu has my contact details should he wish to take genuine responsibility and pursue resolution privately.My response to the practitioner response below is that if you genuinely understand that endings and specifically the withdrawal of care and connection - emotional safety can be painful, especially for the vulnerably connected/attached you would not have conducted your practice the way that you have here. You would have accepted the necessary disability reasonable adjustments to ensure access rights to your service for human connection. He has failed to realise the boundary reset that I was having to undertake myself because he was not aware of how uncomfortable stressed and under strain I was due to his dominance and lack of awareness of his own impact on me. This boundary reset was not taking place within the in-person session time as he was repeating the same mistakes despite my attempts to get through and so I was attempting to reset the boundaries through the text relationship in preparation for the next in-person session so it would be a better more comfortable experience for myself. I had no choice but to take total responsibility for my experience or experience harmful over exertion. I gave plenty of feedback at every point. In my view the emotional intelligence to learn and apply adaptations was not present and instead his inflexibility led to the increasingly frustrating situation.I was refunded for sessions that were booked in the diary in advance and had not taken place. The practitioner had already made the decision to terminate the support relationship and had informed me by text when a session was arranged and a Iist made by myself of issues to discuss upon his request. My request for a proportionate refund for sessions already paid for with a combination of correction was not taken seriously. I had to push for 50% off any follow-up call which he said would be a listening call only and I explained this would not work for me if no relational correction would be possible. As part of any follow up call, I would have to commit to not leaving a negative review in writing. I explained that this solution would not serve any restorative purpose for me and I declined the offer and sought clarification as to how he would be proceeding going forward with regards to handling me with responsibility and care. He did not respond to this message request requesting clarification leaving me with no choice but a negative review. The practitioner should contact me directly as specified above.
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